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Manners and machismo: Traditional Western gender etiquette is clear. Ladies, don鈥檛 be loud and unruly. Men, be tough.

Dutch university student Maud Fernhout challenged these stereotypes in her photo series 鈥淲hat Real Men Cry Like鈥� and 鈥淲hat Real Women Laugh Like,鈥� in which she asked fellow students from different cultures to do exactly that. When the women saw their own faces crinkled with elation and mouths agape, they were repulsed. 鈥淭hey said, 鈥業 look so ugly,鈥欌�� Fernhout recalled. 鈥淏ut when they looked at the other girls, they said, 鈥極h, she鈥檚 so pretty!鈥� and they realized it was okay.鈥� Seeing others break the mold of what a woman鈥檚 face should look like changed how they felt about themselves.

Fernhout found that attitudes toward crying men varied by culture: Eastern European students were most resistant, while Italians and Spaniards cried easily. Women鈥檚 reactions to how they looked laughing didn鈥檛 vary, Fernhout said, perhaps because most of Europe shares the same standards of beauty but not the same standards of masculinity. She hopes that these images will force people to look at their own preconceptions of gendered behaviors.

-Jennifer Luxton

I love to laugh the way I used to when I was a child. That belly-tickling, head-tilting, wide-mouthed laughter. That laughter that leaves you gasping for air and brushing warm tears off your cheek. I think if any force can break the claustrophobic box of civility, it is the force of child-like laughter.
Emma, 20

Whenever I cry, I can鈥檛 help but smile soon afterward because it brings to awareness the level of genuine emotion and compassion that is constantly available to us. It鈥檚 a catharsis, a purge, a spontaneous recognition of something deeply connected to whatever constitutes our self-concept. It鈥檚 nothing short of beautiful.
Buckminster, 20

In my opinion, laughing makes my face one big wrinkle, but at least my inside feels all warm and lovely, and that鈥檚 what matters.
Laura, 18

For me, crying is not showing your weakness. When I cry, I can accept my feelings and I鈥檓 able to continue. It makes me stronger.
Job, 18

Proud to be happy. Proud to be human. Proud of my laughter. Proud to be a woman.
Andrea, 19